Before and after shots are an all-too-common sight online, but one young mum has posted two shots with a bit of a difference.
Instead, there is a hint of weight gain, a couple of stretchmarks and a massive reality check for young mums who feel like their body confidence is directly associated with their ability to slip into a pair of size 10 jeans.
Posting as Mum on the Run , ‘mummy blogger’ Mazza says the picture on the left is her body before kids.
“No stretch marks or scars from belly button piercings. A belly button that was high. A flat stomach. I was always on a diet back then.
“Uploading this photo wouldn’t be bad, it’s like me being in a bikini. It’s socially acceptable.”
She says in the post, called Love Makes You Fat, that she took progress photos as she tried to slim down because “it meant I was closer to be a weight where I would love myself”.
In an honest admission, she writes: “I ate no carbs, and barely any vegetables. Just meat. But I loved it because I was losing weight rapidly and the more bones that protruded the more I valued myself.
“I ended up hating meat, and was always suffering from heartburn. But still I looked at this photo, this image of myself, like I was fat. There was nothing wrong with the way I looked. My body was mine.”
Although she was told by others that she was fit and healthy, she refused to believe them – which brings her to the right-hand photograph, labelled “me now”.
“Stretch marks. A droopy belly button. Thicker, not many bones protruding, but more dimples that represent cellulite.
“People don’t want to see this photo. All of a sudden it’s not okay. It’s not pleasing to the eye anymore. It’s not a body to be admired.”
Mazza, who lives in Melbourne, says that she doesn’t pick and choose anymore, she eats everything, saying: “It’s not always healthy but 99% of it is.”
“The scars and stretch marks and jiggly tummy is because I made humans . I ate a little more cake, I drank a little more wine. I made mug cakes at 9pm and snuggled on the couch with my husband. But for some reason, I didn’t love this body. It’s sad.
“This body didn’t deserve sexy underwear, or a new wardrobe. Sometimes I didn’t even want to take pregnancy photos because I was ashamed of how big I looked. I didn’t admire this body.”
She says she felt like people were forcing her to love her body, but she could because she wanted to be “skinny”.
“But s***,” she adds: “When I was, I wasn’t happy. And I certainly wasn’t healthy.”
Despite her former quest for the perfect physique as she understood it, she says she’s proud now of her body.
“have achieved more with this body, then I have with my old body. I’ve eaten more good foods. I’ve lived more, I’ve given more, I’ve enjoyed more. I’ve made life. This body, THIS body should be celebrated and admired.
“I should admire myself. I should love myself.
“I get it now. Celebrating all body types. All body types and the stories that go with that body. Above all, THE person should be celebrated. Healthy bodies should be celebrated.
“Healthy should be what we strive for. Healthy minds, healthy journey’s and however that reflects on to our bodies, we should admire it.”
She says she still wants to look like the first photo and misses that body.
“But I want to get there in a healthy way, mentally and physically. I want to be proud and at peace with this body. And I want to like what I’ve got now.
“No.. I want to love what I’ve got now.”
The post’s point which has resonated with more than 10,000 reactors on Facebook is clear.
“No matter what size you are, a size 6 or size 60. You deserve to celebrate it. Sexy underwear AND a new wardrobe.
“So love your body, because you truly really really, only get one.”
Laura’s post has gone viral and she’s even appeared on television, but it’s her Facebook fans who have shared her positive attitude.
One wrote: “Both are gorgeous and this is the most realistic body celebration post I have ever seen.”
“You have evolved to be a beautiful mother and older person,” noted another, while a third said: “I was the same way but I find as I get older inner beauty is better than outer beauty.”
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